First things first, there is nothing wrong with feeling that way about other men. If that's how he feels, that's how he feels. But you can't force someone to accept themselves. You can support him and make it clear that it doesn't change how you feel about him as a friend, and that'll probably help, but ultimately he has to decide that he's ready to accept that about himself. But saying that, having friends who will stand by him will help a lot.
Now, with regards to his crush. Obviously if his crush is straight and taken, it's a bad idea for your friend to confess - he'll only end up making things awkward for everyone involved and if this is connected to the last question, he already realises that. But that doesn't mean his love life is over. He sounds like a wonderful guy and I'm sure there's someone out there who he will fall for and who will return his feelings. But it's not his current crush and confessing to this guy isn't going to help your friend become any more confident. What he needs to focus on is finding his confidence so that when Mr Right comes along, he'll be brave enough to make his move.
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First things first, there is nothing wrong with feeling that way about other men. If that's how he feels, that's how he feels. But you can't force someone to accept themselves. You can support him and make it clear that it doesn't change how you feel about him as a friend, and that'll probably help, but ultimately he has to decide that he's ready to accept that about himself. But saying that, having friends who will stand by him will help a lot.
Now, with regards to his crush. Obviously if his crush is straight and taken, it's a bad idea for your friend to confess - he'll only end up making things awkward for everyone involved and if this is connected to the last question, he already realises that. But that doesn't mean his love life is over. He sounds like a wonderful guy and I'm sure there's someone out there who he will fall for and who will return his feelings. But it's not his current crush and confessing to this guy isn't going to help your friend become any more confident. What he needs to focus on is finding his confidence so that when Mr Right comes along, he'll be brave enough to make his move.
Now, who's next?