soul_campaign | o3. thursday april 1st / text

Recently I was introduced to a practice that does not exist in my home world.

Said practice is 'marriage' and I became rather curious about it. Someone suggested to me that I read some wedding planning books or romance novels to learn more about it. I asked one of the sales person at the nearby bookstore for their most popular romance novels.

[At this point there is a very long pause in Disciple's reading as she tries to find a way to put this politely. She was pretty certain what she had been reading in these books was exaggerated, or some weird fetish fulfillment but what if it wasn't and she just ended up insulting a bunch of people?]

I

[And there she stops again]

am confused. By a lot of things I have read in these books and would like clarification on some things so I do not go off with the wrong ideas of the romantic practices of humans. I'd rather not go into detail about what I have read in some of these books since I understand we have some young ones with access to this network, so if someone could just tell me about marriage and the human quadrant system I would be much obliged.

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It's based more on a tacit mutual agreement to be deluded than on pity.

[...whelp. That was definitely a different answer from what she had been getting.]

If that is the case, why bother?

Beats the hell out of me. Probably because most people are stupid.

Well to each their own. Some things work for some people and not others, so I would venture to say it has more to do with preference.

You're interested in blackrom, you say? No parallel exists for humans, does there?

Not really; that's why the troll one comes in useful.

We have the concept of hatesex. But rivalry as the basis for a long-term romantic relationship, which doesn't end up flipping red by your terms? We don't have that.

[He's minorly proud of himself for not resorting to a euphemism for 'hatesex.' When Gemini first explained the idea, Mello beat a hasty retreat.]

Most people will tell you the human version of romance is based on love, or at the very least attraction. Trolls don't have that, do they?

[....hatesex]

[She's glad Mello knows it's not that.]

It depends who you ask, really. I would say yes, and that the use of the word pity is more of a result of the n33d not to appear 'weak'.

I... have had reason to suspect trolls are capable of a more human interpretation of things.

[Mostly because Gemini put things in human terms, while Mello put them in troll, a while back. Not that he thinks it applies anymore.]

You'd say matespritship is caring for someone despite being aware of their flaws?

[She is surprised by he sudden change, but makes no comment on it]

As much as I enjoy talking about quadrants, in all honesty it is a little difficult for me to give an exact way on how to define them--at the very least, the red quadrants.

[Since her own relationship is some weird mix of the two...or complete dismissal of the quadrants entirely. Honestly Disciple had long since stopped trying to define what she and Signless had]

If I had to speak on the matter, however, I would say yes that is a part of it. Sometimes caring for them because of their flaws. Attraction, f33lings of fulfillment and happiness of course all come along with it.

Cancer has--had--this thing he sends out, but it doesn't go into much depth about the red quadrants. I assumed most trolls don't really do fulfillment.

[This assumption may well be because of the troll company he keeps.]

[Cancer?]

Trolls do fulfillment. I think the problem comes in the dangers with seeking it out.

The red quadrants can be an exc33dingly dangerous for trolls because it requires a willingness to expose yourself, to become vulnerable. Getting hurt by a red partner is considered worse than getting hurt by a black partner, for the blame is laid at your own f33t for being so weak as to expose yourself. Emotional wounds are considered weaknesses, physical ones as marks of your strength.

These are all my own musings but it is for this reason why trolls are adverse to s33king out solid matesprits and even moirail, and why the usage of pity is more acceptable than love.

Humans aren't so different that way. We tend to go to incredible lengths to keep ourselves emotionally safe. I can see how it would be more of an imperative for trolls. Humans don't get culled at the first sign of weakness.

You're a romantic, aren't you?

I can s33 that being the case for all species. No one likes to expose themselves in such a way, and risk being hurt. Even if only in just an emotional manner.

[She ain't even ashamed]

I am.

I used to be.

I still think the risk is worth it.

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